The photograph pinned here is
actually a writing trigger which I couldn’t ignore! This beautiful picture clicked
by one of my friend suddenly popped out in front of my eyes yesterday and I told my
friends that there is something about this picture that I want to use, describe
or explain in my own way and then suddenly another friend of mine suggested me
to write a blog on it. I am blessed to have friends who are so thoughtful and
give words to my often confused instincts! Today, I am writing this blog as a dedication to
them.....
I have never written on
relationships but I’ll give it a go………let’s see what I am up to!
(Note: Thoughts are random so you
will not be able to find synchrony among paragraphs so do please manage!!
Relationships!…… vibrant expressions
of different roles we play in our life as a human being…..various ways of manifestation
of the nature of human ‘to give’………’to love’ and ‘to be loved’ in all possible
permutations and combinations of the word called ‘LOVE’ (Including the one
which is chemically supported by nature…the one between opposite genders!). Sometimes
I wonder how amazing the concept of relationship is! These are the ways through
which we can expand our very own self!
I remember, as a teenager, my
relationship with my mom was always unsettled and on edge. But now I often get
amazed when I look back and notice that how our bond has naturally grown with
time and has evolved into a new form of friendship!! But none of us tried to
actually work out on it! Neither I grabbed tricks from sources like ‘chicken soup
for the teenage soul’ nor she read books of ‘How to have a beautiful
relationship with your daughter’ kinds!. But it happened! It
happened because relationship itself found its way and we simply followed the
flow! And for almost every teenagers, the story is all the same!! With this, I realized
the fact that sometimes things don’t work out in some relationships because the
intensity of the relationship either becomes too high or too low. So, the main
challenge that remains constant throughout the journey is to ‘manage the
intensity’. In fact, the main challenge lies in doing one thing and that is ‘Doing nothing at all!’ Yes, I
personally feel that relationship is the very true and innate nature of human
being. One need not to work out on it at all! Every effort that is invested in
making a relationship work is actually overdoing and overdoing often leads to loss
of ingenuity, and for what is not-genuine, is doom to fade with time. One need
to actually trust the spontaneity of the process!
The
concept of understanding the
other person in a relationship is also something on which I actually
cannot
believe in because I think in a lifetime, when it is not possible for a
human
being to understand oneself, then how can it is assumed that he/she can
fully
understand any other person? Also, I believe, when the people involved
in a
relationship start giving a trial to the ‘understanding each other’
thing, then
they also unconsciously start testing ‘how accurately they can predict
each others responses on some set of stimuli’. I believe, there are some
corners in
everybody’s life where nobody else is allowed to peep into and sometimes
this
mutual understanding touches that level and therefore intensity of the
relationship starts rising. So understanding each other can be a good
start
when you are trying to get into a new bond but can never be the part and
parcel
of the whole relationship thing.
Also, in relationships, I don’t
know why but I have this weird faith in the concept of ‘Destiny’. I admit for many of us, it may not actually sound a
logical thing to believe in. But I personally believe that it is the biggest
logic of the Universe! We don’t even know how many calculations, facts and
arguments are altogether involved in shaping it!
Gud wrk goldu... I totally agree with dis.. Keep writing... God bless.. :)
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